Entrepreneur.com warned me of these moments, but I was never emotionally prepared for every day not being a victory.
Last month I was niggly, distracted, overwhelmed and falling short at the same time with a fake smile plastered on my face. That wrinkle in my forehead protruded about five times per day and I tried drowning my woes with Lush bath bombs or overdosing on umpteen Costa coffees per week (FYI caramel syrup is a great instant mood lifter).
Surviving A Hard Time
Here’s the story: Quitting my job was one of the best decisions I’d ever made and I’d built up a solid community of clients to begin my self-employed venture. But then a good paying client couldn’t afford me anymore. Others came along to fill their place but then never emailed back or suddenly changed their vision. Promises were made and broken and I felt so out of control of my career. My life was buffering, when I wanted to run 70mph.
All within the space of a few weeks.
I’m far too proud to expose my meltdown to the public, but at home, I was in tears nearly every day – sometimes alone in my office, others in the arms of my soul mate.
Further back, I had a highland of work blossoming, but then the floor below me began to crumble piece by piece each day. I’d sifted through Pinterest’s array of motivational quotes daily and bought a plaque for my office to remind myself that anything is possible.
Turns out these methods don’t miraculously solve your problems.
By speaking to others in a similar field to me, it turns out that my temporary break down was all a part of self-employment. Everyone goes through it at and it’ll never be a smooth road. Luckily, I’ve found my feet again which is the joy of working for yourself, because you will fall down a black hole but then discover a beautiful island. No days are the same, but boy that transition is hard to adjust to – especially as you can’t just email your boss and say “Hey, the business is falling apart. Fix it please”.
Getting Through A Hard Time
I’m thankful for this stress because that brick wall made me realise that nothing is guaranteed and no two days will be the same. I’m in control of building my kingdom, and though no-one else will solve my mishaps for me, I’ll see the rewards when they do come.
For those of you who are going through a hard time with work or personal problems, here are a few things I’ve learnt through this monetary collapse:
- You always have a choice in your life. Even at a point when you feel helpless and caged, never do something which makes you unhappy. Know your worth and don’t let anyone take advantage of it.
- I’m such a worrier and stress head, but unbelievably, this sometimes works to my advantage. I face my problems head on and won’t give up until they’re solved. Be determined to get your life back on track too, or deal with it staying the same.
- Success doesn’t happen overnight (I consider myself to be far from it). Nothing’s perfect. That’s life. It’s not the first time my world’s been turned upside and I have to sometimes remind myself that I’ve only been at this for a year part-time and four months full-time. Don’t always be so hard on yourself to be perfect all the time.
- Ask for help. Don’t let your pride get in the way!
- Not everyone will be there for you like you think. It’s sad, but true. The people you thought were supposed to have your back will not always be the ones with open arms when your world caves. But that’s okay because you have to stand on your own two feet to survive. Find people you trust your life with and who will accept you for all of your crazy antics. For me, it’s my girlfriend and mum.
- Take regular time from your situation to focus on other areas of your life. Exercising can lift your mood, your favourite drink can brighten your spirit and unoriginally, a hot bath can work wonders for a bad temper. Playing with my puppy also perks me up.
- Grow a pair and toughen up. At least you’re alive to have a bad day!
I guess the intention of this post was to share that behind the scenes, even the happiest people can have hard times. It’s also worth noting that stressing about a situation going wrong can sometimes be a good thing because it means you care enough about it to fix it.
We’re all human and have good and bad days. Here’s to making more of the good ones!